Someday, Maybe

I heard this on an audio several years ago that someone emailed to me. I wish I could give credit to the author, but I don’t know who it was. I eventually wrote it down, printed it up and put it in a location where I would see it from time to time. I did change a few minor words to broaden the audience of this message, I hope if I ever find the author to thank him for providing his thoughts. I added a powerful thought that Obi-Wan Kenobi has in the novel Revenge of the Sith. – Gabriel Cruz (aka Cruzzer)

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“Why is MEANINGLESS; it is an echo of the past, or a whisper of the future. All that matters, for the INFINITE NOW, is what, and where, and who.” – Obiwan Kenobi’s thoughts in the novel, ‘Revenge of The Sith‘ (pg. 120)

So I get the sense that working with a lot of people; that a lot people are waiting for SOMETHING. They are waiting for something to happen; they are waiting for something to change. They are waiting for something to be different. They are waiting for sometime in the future when everything will be better. They are thinking someday, maybe I will feel different. They are thinking, maybe someday I will have all the knowledge I need.

They are thinking, they will be someday, maybe, Someday, they will be whatever it is. What that actually is, is a way to deny yourself. It comes from a disapproval habit. If only I knew enough, if only I weighed less, if only I was better looking. The curious thing about it is that IT NEVER COMES. There is NO SUCH thing as SOMEDAY. SOMEDAY DOES NOT EXIST. The only thing that exists is right NOW.

So all the changes you have to make are right at the moment, right then, or right now. You have to face the possibility that those things will never change. You may not ever feel different; you may never feel that you have enough knowledge or good enough.

What if it never changed? What if you always felt like you always feel now? Oh, that would suck…

What you are actually doing is, you are actually denying yourself; you are fragmenting yourself. You are putting the best parts of yourself out somewhere that does not exist. Everything that you need, you already have. For the most parts, it’s decisions.

If you decided if you are going to California, or New York, or wherever, L.A, Miami, You just get up in the car and go, and if the car breaks down, then you start walking, you start hitchhiking. Call somebody, call a friend that already has a car, get your car fixed and get in and go.

Break yourself of the habit of someday, maybe, break yourself of the habit that is connected to disapproval. Break yourself to the day that someday, maybe it will be all better than you will get what you want. That right there is a huge wreck. That right there is costing your life’s worth!

You are denying yourself things you want, because you are putting this dream SOMEWHERE or SOMEDAY, FUTURE that maybe is never going to come. It has to be taken right now, it has to be taken by the decision that you are going to do it, and you are going to do it, no matter how you feel, even though you think you have many disadvantages, you are going to do it even though you think you don’t know enough.

The curious thing that happens is once you decide, you get access to those things, but you never get access to them when you keep them in some mental distant future that doesn’t exist. That’s just keeping them away from yourself.

So right now ask yourself mentally, can I let go of disapproving of myself. It’s a decision. It is a decision that you can say YES TOO.

So could you let go right now of disapproving of yourself? Could you let go of thinking you are not good enough for her or him. Could you let go of thought, all thoughts are limitations, even positives ones, could you let go of the thought that you don’t know enough? That you don’t look the right away physically? Can you let go of that thought?

Could you let go of that habit of thought of putting that someday maybe future that does not exist?

Could you decide that the thing you want to do, or be or accomplish, Can you decide you are going to do it, even if though you don’t feel like you think you should feel, or you don’t think you have things you should have?

12 Things My Grandmother Told Me Before She Died

BY: MARC CHERNOFF

When my grandmother, Zelda, passed away a few years ago at the age of 90, she left me with a box of miscellaneous items from her house that she knew I had grown to appreciate over the years.  Among these items is an old leather-bound journal that she aptly named her ‘Inspiration Journal.’

Throughout the second half of her life, she used this journal to jot down ideas, thoughts, quotes, song lyrics, and anything else that moved her.  She would read excerpts from her journal to me when I was growing up, and I would listen and ask questions.  I honestly credit a part of who I am now to the wisdom she bestowed on me when I was young.

Today I want to share some of these inspiring excerpts with you.  I’ve done my best to sort, copyedit, and reorganize the content into twelve inspiring bullet points.  Enjoy.

1. Breathe in the future, breathe out the past.  No matter where you are or what you’re going through, always believe that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.  Never expect, assume, or demand.  Just do your best, control the elements you can control, and then let it be.  Because once you have done what you can, if it is meant to be, it will happen, or it will show you the next step that needs to be taken.
2. Life CAN be simple again.  Just choose to focus on one thing at a time.  You don’t have to do it all, and you don’t have to do it all right now.  Breathe, be present, and do your best with what’s in front of you.  What you put into life, life will eventually give you back many times over.  Read The Power of Now.
3. Let others take you as you are, or not at all.  Speak your truth even if your voice shakes.  By being yourself, you put something beautiful into the world that was not there before.  So walk your path confidently and don’t expect anyone else to understand your journey, especially if they have not been exactly where you are going.
4. You are not who you used to be, and that’s OK.  You’ve been hurt; you’ve gone through numerous ups and downs that have made you who you are today.  Over the years, so many things have happened – things that have changed your perspective, taught you lessons, and forced your spirit to grow.  As time passes, nobody stays the same, but some people will still tell you that you have changed.  Respond to them by saying, “Of course I’ve changed.  That’s what life is all about.  But I’m still the same person, just a little stronger than I ever was before.”
5. Everything that happens helps you grow, even if it’s hard to see right now.  Circumstances will direct you, correct you, and perfect you over time.  So whatever you do, hold on to hope.  The tiniest thread will twist into an unbreakable cord.  Let hope anchor you in the possibility that this is not the end of your story – that the change in the tides will eventually bring you to peaceful shores.
6. Do not educate yourself to be rich, educate yourself to be happy.  That way when you get older you’ll know the value of things, not the price.  In the end, you will come to realize that the best days are the days when you don’t need anything extreme or special to happen to make you smile.  You simply appreciate the moments and feel gratitude, seeking nothing else, nothing more.  That is what true happiness is all about.  Read Happiness Is a Serious Problem.
7. Be determined to be positive.  Understand that the greater part of your misery or unhappiness is determined not by your circumstances, but by your attitude.  So smile at those who often try to begrudge or hurt you, show them what’s missing in their life and what they can’t take away from you.
8. Pay close attention to those you care about.  Sometimes when a loved one says, “I’m okay,” they need you to look them in the eyes, hug them tight, and reply, “I know you’re not.”  And don’t be too upset if some people only seem to remember you when they need you.  Feel privileged that you are like a beacon of light that comes to their minds when there is darkness in their lives.
9. Sometimes you have to let a person go so they can grow.  Because, over the course of their lives, it is not what you do for them, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them a successful human being. 
10. Sometimes getting the results you crave means stripping yourself of people that don’t serve your best interests.  This allows you to make space for those who support you in being the absolute best version of yourself.  It happens gradually as you grow.  You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do.  So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.
11. It’s better to look back on life and say, “I can’t believe I did that,” than to look back and say, “I wish I did that.”  In the end, people will judge you in some way anyway.  So don’t live your life trying to impress others.  Instead live your life impressing yourself.  Love yourself enough to never lower your standards for anyone.  Read The Last Lecture.
12. If you’re looking for a happy ending and can’t seem to find one, maybe it’s time to start looking for a new beginning.  Brush yourself off and accept that you have to fail from time to time.  That’s how you learn.  The strongest people out there – the ones who laugh the hardest with a genuine smile – are the same people who have fought the toughest battles.  They’re smiling because they’ve decided that they’re not going to let anything hold them down, they’re moving on to a new beginning.

You can contact the author, Marc by emailing him, Marc@Marcandangel.com or read more about him http://www.marcandangel.com/about/

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